• 4:16 AM, Sunday, February 15, 2009
interpersonal communication.
I guess this is the topic everyone will be so interested in in class.Interpersonal communications.
Interpersonal communications can be within a group of people. but we seems to have narrow it down to communication between two party.
Which stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development do you like and dislike most?
1. Initiating 2.Experimenting 3.Intensifying 4.Integrating 5.Bonding 6.Differentiating 7.Circumscribing 8.Stagnating 9.Avoiding q0.Terminating
well. i think initiating and experimenting stages are the sweetest. when u start to know someone and through communicating and knowing each other, finding out that both of you are so "compatible". that is sweet. (however thinking that being compatible for each other can be one of the reasons that lead to the stage i dislike circumscribing). experimenting is the sweet period where you get to know each other likes and dislike. compromising each other, learning to accommodate. Isn't this the stage where we go "ooo..so sweet" to couples we see?
Compromising and accommodating your partner is the sweetest thing ever. However it doesn't seems to last. When we are so attracted to each other, we seems to be able to tell ourselves that "it is alright. she is cute that way. i like her for who she is." but when time passes and the "true colour" of both partners reveal itself, we can't seems to accept the face that you like him/her due to the way she was in the start. then comments like "you have changed."start to appear in the conversation. Was it the other party changed or it is just that you were so wrong that you two were "compatible"? *laughs* human contradicts.
And after the "you have changed" part, comes the part where you just feel so irritated by the look of the person. the way they talk, walk, dress. (everything that you like from the start). Circumscribing comes. That is the part I dislike. I believe at that point of time, when you are looking back at the times you spent with the person, you still have some feelings for the other party, just that compromising and accommodating him or her isn't what you think of anymore. Even you try, you seems to be telling yourself "why am I the only one who is compromising?" *sad, but true*.
It takes two hands to clap(one yours and one from your partner). When one hand gets tired and stop clapping, it wont work out. I always tell my friends who ask advise about their relationship from me that, if you are not serious to settle down and manage a relationship, or you got no time for the other party, don't get into it and hurt the other party. This will only create negative flashback for him/her in the future. (: However, learning to manage your time in a relationship is also important. If you have never been in a relationship before then you will have to learn from zero. If you have been in a relationship before, then you can learn from your mistake in the past(that is if you wants to get into a relationship again). If you are in a relationship now and still struggling with prioritizing your time, it is best that you speak to your partner and see what the both of you can do. As this is an interpersonal communication, where you have to be able to prevent conflicts and you want to be "clapping" your way through this journey. (:
[[Taylor Swift-Love Story]] this is not the original mtv. it is with images of all the disney princess love story. i think it is very sweet. i dun think guys will like it. (: *winks* Happy valentine's day to all. (:
