I guess this is the topic everyone will be so interested in in class.

Interpersonal communications.
Interpersonal communications can be within a group of people. but we seems to have narrow it down to communication between two party.

Which stage of the Knapp Model of Relational Development do you like and dislike most?
1. Initiating 2.Experimenting 3.Intensifying 4.Integrating 5.Bonding 6.Differentiating 7.Circumscribing 8.Stagnating 9.Avoiding q0.Terminating

well. i think initiating and experimenting stages are the sweetest. when u start to know someone and through communicating and knowing each other, finding out that both of you are so "compatible". that is sweet. (however thinking that being compatible for each other can be one of the reasons that lead to the stage i dislike circumscribing). experimenting is the sweet period where you get to know each other likes and dislike. compromising each other, learning to accommodate. Isn't this the stage where we go "ooo..so sweet" to couples we see?

Compromising and accommodating your partner is the sweetest thing ever. However it doesn't seems to last. When we are so attracted to each other, we seems to be able to tell ourselves that "it is alright. she is cute that way. i like her for who she is." but when time passes and the "true colour" of both partners reveal itself, we can't seems to accept the face that you like him/her due to the way she was in the start. then comments like "you have changed."start to appear in the conversation. Was it the other party changed or it is just that you were so wrong that you two were "compatible"? *laughs* human contradicts.

And after the "you have changed" part, comes the part where you just feel so irritated by the look of the person. the way they talk, walk, dress. (everything that you like from the start). Circumscribing comes. That is the part I dislike. I believe at that point of time, when you are looking back at the times you spent with the person, you still have some feelings for the other party, just that compromising and accommodating him or her isn't what you think of anymore. Even you try, you seems to be telling yourself "why am I the only one who is compromising?" *sad, but true*.

It takes two hands to clap(one yours and one from your partner). When one hand gets tired and stop clapping, it wont work out. I always tell my friends who ask advise about their relationship from me that, if you are not serious to settle down and manage a relationship, or you got no time for the other party, don't get into it and hurt the other party. This will only create negative flashback for him/her in the future. (: However, learning to manage your time in a relationship is also important. If you have never been in a relationship before then you will have to learn from zero. If you have been in a relationship before, then you can learn from your mistake in the past(that is if you wants to get into a relationship again). If you are in a relationship now and still struggling with prioritizing your time, it is best that you speak to your partner and see what the both of you can do. As this is an interpersonal communication, where you have to be able to prevent conflicts and you want to be "clapping" your way through this journey. (:

[[Taylor Swift-Love Story]] this is not the original mtv. it is with images of all the disney princess love story. i think it is very sweet. i dun think guys will like it. (: *winks* Happy valentine's day to all. (:
why am i the one who is stuck in the middle?!
i m starting to hate CNY. ):
maybe the only thing i will like it is only the red packets.
i hate where m i born in.
why when people are enjoying, i cant.
why when people are smiling truthfully, i cant.
why when people are having precious happy time with their family, i cant.

i dun understand how we are able to live here and no one complains.
i shouldnt thank God about it. because if i thank Him, it means that i m satisfied with what he has given. I am satisfied that He has given me a happy family, but I am not satisfied with what we are going through.

everyone wants a happy family. so do i.
i long for one. i use to say next time if i have my own family, i wouldnt want it to be a broken one. but i think i should rephrase it.
i want a happy family now and a happy family in the future.
i prayed for many many many years. and some times i m so tired. that i forgot about praying for a better family. some times i feel that my prayer is answered when i start to sing and talk to Him.

i really pray that He will calm him and make him wake up to reality.
i know that he had suffer from a bad childhood. that's why he is like that. but i hope he can realise that everyone around him cares. but is frighten away from him when he behaves threatening. )': we really cares. but what can we do. ):

i m quite sick and tired of all these that are happening. when will he wake up? is death really goin to solve all the problems? does parting the earthly life change whatever that is happening? ): i m confused. and i got no one to talk to. that's why i type it out. to make me feel better. i can only cry when no one notices. cos i should appear strong. that's what everyone thinks i am. a strong and bright person who can "revive" him. but that is not the fact. i am super fragile. super weak. i cannot accept, but this is where i am born to. ):
been some time since i blogged..
really cant make it a point to blog every day man~

birthday's over. not going to upload any pictures here. all on facebook and friendster.

yesterday went to jing si hall to stay over, today was he xin gong shi ying.
well..attended the sharing sessions for the shigu and shibo on saturday..
very touching.. where married couples come on stage to share about how tzu chi changed their marriage lifestyle..almost cried..but didn't..because quite paiseh to cry then..

ji yu shi bo came for a question and answer session..quite cute because the questions they asked are abit.......out of point..

anyway shi bo shared about shang ren.. whatever things she do..she always set a good image before she want to influence other people.."yi sheng zuo ze" in chinese.. this makes me think about what i m facing now..

suddenly feel so moody..so stress.. why have the teenagers nowadays changed so much..i really hope those graduated tzushaos will become a tzuching like us..not like me..but like us..cos i am not a good example..i didn't set the good example..and maybe because of that..i made them felt that "so what she is a tzuching, she is also like us. it doesn't mean that she is more well-behaved. she is still like a kid. what so good about her image..."

the one day camp ended, and i must say i learn a lot. shared abit about my past to grps 6 to 8 and continued the sharing when i was with my group. cried a little while sharing w them. well i have changed, i m not like that anymore and i m proud of it. i am glad i am in tzuchi and i know so many inspiring and nice people. cos because of that i will not and won't step back to that past anymore.

shangren "yi sheng zuo ze"..what about us? all of us signifies tzuchi. wherever we go, whether we are wearing uniforms or not. people know we are from tzuchi. maybe because of the uniform or maybe because they saw us before. yups tingting jiejie shared. even crossing the roads affect how people think of u..even normal pedestrian get complained by some aunties. what about us? we are from tzuchi, we need to have a better image. because whatever mistakes we do, not only affect our image, it also affect tzuchi image and shangren's image. that would be a serious issue already. how much bad comments had she received just because of our doings. be it in taiwan or worldwide. she had not complain about it or reprimand us. she accepts the comments and change her mindset. she thinks that it is her fault for not setting the good image. instead of asking us to change..she change..

we always say how great is tzuchi, others may doubt. and do u doubt? if u do. why?
tzuchi may be a fun place to be in, with nice and funny people. is that why u r in here? or r u in here for the fun and the work n the learnings and preaching. fun and work be together only if you are brave and responsible enough to take it. when it is time to play, we can play all we want..but when it is time to be serious..were u serious enough..

whether u r tzuching tzushao shigu shibo or grey shirt volunteers, do u portrait the correct image in the correct time? did u follow all the rules and restrictions? u may think that they are a lot. but they are jus some humanitarian doings. and it also help u save ur dignity. a lot times we think that these rules are restricting u from doing the things u like. but actually they aren't really rules. they are jus common sense and common manners.

shibo say how do u expect to influence the person when u urself is doing the wrong thing at the wrong time. how do u expect people to believe in u? i keep thinking maybe this batch of graduated tzushao havent grow up lah..it is ok..give them time..but now i think it is my image that is not helping them..

i regret..regret asking them to come for this camp and got observed by the shigu shibo..i regret.. regret asking huiying to be their group leader. i regret..regret saying that they should be in a group.. i regret.. regret not setting a good example in front of them.. maybe i m too close to them that makes me feel that dun scold them lah..they will get hurt..if i scold them got wad use.. they maybe will end up hating me..

i regret deeply and n m v sorry to huiying..i shouldn't let her take this stress.
but if i m really their grp leader..i m going to scold them when they are doing the wrong ting and the wrong time? will they listen to me? i m too selfish..

i hope today's talk will change them a bit. even if it is just a little bit.. i really hope that they learnt something and they felt the bigbigbig diffference between a tzushao and a tzuching.. i pray the grow..grow in term of wisdom.. because they are our only hope to making the change in the tzushao world.

about poly.. i pray that somebody will come and be our xuezhang.. i feel like leaving tzuching side already. maybe i should go overseas to study..
good bye air stewardess..i jus cant bear to leave tzuchi for air stewardess.
i pray that before i leave..to work or to study..i can help in the progress of tzushaos and tzuchings side..











okie.. above are pictures for miss gan wedding with me in it.. hehe..
she so pretty tt day can! haha..all brides are pretty..
my table was super noisy..cox guo zhan was a bit drunk..
he cant even twist properly with two fingers..
the wedding was simple and peaceful.. u noe why? cox miss gan dun like noisy people.. haha


teck they all play drinking game..then miss gan was standing outside saying thanks to guest who left early..den hsia they all jus happen to go toilet..so miss gan tell hsia to come in to say "eh miss gan ask u all dun play n drink liaos..or else she will come in.." LOF so farni can..it is like back to sec sch days.. miss 4e2 ssssooooo much.. chalet coming up in may.. loves..

everyone still as crazy as bfore..no one changed..(: love my sec sch class so much..even the teachers are so cute.. o ya.. mrs ngiam cannot rmb our names..den the stupid yujun said my name is xiao hui..den she really believe it..haha so gullable.. then whole day yujun call me xiao hui..irritating!! dun think tt day ur bday u win ah..

o..yujun was irritating..every one bottoms up already he still dun wanna drink..why u dun wanna "tah" LOF... "bo tah bo lam pa" u noe.. haha..no wonder u r ah gua! haha.. okie.. jus for laugh k..

that day the guys are so high..n teck still drove to jurong to kbox lahx.. me, hsia and yujun nv go..cox hsia nxt day need to work..den yujun lehx..only wanna play majong..money-mind.... so my mum drove us home..

reach home bathe den slp le.. but took quite some time to fall asleep..

and that was friday...

miss gan..now mrs smith..
wishing u a happy marriage..
pray tt ur husband will love u, cherish u and promise u his vows...
and have little smith(s) soon...
housewarming?

haha.. mr smith is like my cousin-in-law..
the temper is super nice one.. wont get angry those kind.. and always smiling..
so fortunate to have a husband like them ah..

that's all for friday..

my bday is coming..but..i dun wish for the arrival of that day.. some how wanna escape from tt day..but i know it is not possible.. sigh.. dunno why this feeling is so strong..

birthdays are not as happy as wad we think it is.. ):

byebye~ <3
okay.. sorry i didnt update my blog..cox i think no one will come n read.. haha.. and... this year is a busy year..it is like all of a sudden alot of things happened..

to zelson:
i m sorry..i know u love me a lot.. but ya..Tzuchi is really very important to me.. it is not part of my life..but it is my life.. i dunno what can i do to make you happier..
all i can think of is leave you..because i m really too busy for u..
i dun have any time for u..cos i have to do Tzuchi things..
sorry sorry..

to elin:
love you tttttttttthhhhhhiiiiiiiissss much..
u have to treat me to something nice okie? i stay in sch everyday just to help u with ur project..
though i nv really do anything..but my companion makes u happy right? hahaha...
you will pass..cox there are 3 brains doing one project..(: loveyou..
yeah! after ur project n my performance we can go TAIWAN! (:
hehe..cant wait to see the sceneries of taiwan..
remember your fav ahxin say sceneries are the best things to bring back for a holiday? hehe..
let's use our eyes as camera..(: sad that charlotte cant go with us..): we will take more photos to show her(:
boiboi say byebye..

woo..it is back to blog again?
nv use blogspot since i graduated from sec sch..
used msn space..which is quite stupid lah..

big big thanks to jieying...
so sweet of her to help me do a blogskin of my own..with my pictures..
yup..i m a self maniac.. haha..

maybe it was bcox of all the codings that make mi sick of blogs..haha..
get sians of the skin very easily..now with my pictures on them..i wont feel sick le..=D

today is vday..
went to yishun..ate burger king! why so cheapo?
cox no money le..bought tv for someone for vday..
i gt a guess bag and a bouquet of flowers..folded flowers..not real flowers..

i think this year a lot of girls received flowers..
saw a lot of couples..with the lady having a bouquet of flowers on their hands..
i think it is not a practical gift..yes it is sweet..but..flowers wither and die..(sad sad)..
i bought a sunflower for myself a few years back..kept it for about a week or so then it withered..so sad can..

o..my new phone is spoiled..dunno what happened..i nv drop it before can..
sigh..v sad cox it is a 3.2megapixel phone..it cant even start up now..
it is jus a black screen..
now using my brother's palm phone..
i dunno how to use can..it is really like a "phone" to me..i only know how to call and sms..other than that.......(:
dunno when will have the time to repair it..

i m going to learn driving everyday except for weekends starting on 15april..
actually want to start on march..but no more slots for me to book le..
yup..i learn auto..cox i know i will go crazy if i learn manual driving..
first i m dumb..second i think if i learn manual driving the instructor will be like the instructor of 90.5fm advertisment..
lol..

having exams on saturday..of all timing..9am to 11am..
if i fail tis module i will cry..seriously cry..
i got 40marks for common test.. so i dunno what are the chances for me to pass this module..

all my sec sch frens got gpa of 2.3 and above..mine is jus......1.9? average?
haha...maybe they got a course they like..
mine is like crap..regret not retaking o lvls and get a course of my liking..
still can remember first year's practical class..it is like sec sch d&t..
i dun even think i ever pass my d&t when i m in sec sch...
poly life is like a drama..those 100+++ episode kinds..
meet all kinds of people you can ever dream of meeting..
to me they are strange people..to them i m also strange..(maybe..probably..should be)
still prefer secondary sch life..carefree..no need to worry about lost of laptops..
just go to the canteen..there will be seats for you..
it is really carefree and full of fun.. pranks...rebelling..woooo..
miss all of them..(:

okie..think i better stop here..
i will try to blog as much as i can..so i wont let jieying down..(:

!JAMIE :D


Hello. Guess my gender by my name :P I'm studying in SIM, and i m tryin to get use to it! But stress from the exams is taking its toll on me :( I love rainbows, and the way the sun shines down on me. Hence, by now i guess you'd be able to conclude that i <3 sunshine & rainbows! :D I love all that loves me too, & don't judge me before you know me, because i'm super friendly! :DD


Good results.
Skinnier.
Get to drive(!!)
Money.
More trustworthy friends.
Good job.



They are the important people in my life, people whom i can count on, trust on, :D

♥♥♥ My Family ; ♥♥'Luan' Jia ; ♥Ben ; ♥Bingrou ; ♥Bishi ; ♥♥♥Boyboy ; ♥Charlotte ; ♥Elin ; ♥♥Huiying ; ♥Jieying ; ♥Sheena ; ♥Shihsia ; ♥Siqi ; ♥Sooyin ; ♥Angel.